Re: [DMCForum] Re: DMC Wedding...

[Ryan Wright <ryanpwright@xxxxxxxxx>]

On 8/3/05, Marc Levy <malevy_nj@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> Wow, not even married yet...  and she is nice enough
> to *LET* you continue your (Ken's) part's business..
> Isn't that nice of her?
> 
> Watch your step, or she will change her mind.
> 
> Oh, I am so NEVER getting married....  If I ever
> change my mind, someone come and shoot me?

Marc, it's really not a problem. Just marry someone who respects you,
and vice versa. Most importantly, be willing to stand up for yourself.
I believe all women will eventually "put her foot down" and/or try to
manipulate her husband into not doing something "because (she) said
so." You have to be willing to say, "Honey, I love you and respect
your opinion, but what I want to do is perfectly reasonable and I'm
going to do it."

Of course, you can't be an ass about it. If you're spending more money
than you can afford, or painting the living room walls black, you need
to come to an agreement. But if it's just about some hobby you have,
or what kind of car you buy for yourself (assuming you're in the
financial situation to do so), quite frankly she has no say in it. I
never understood these women who think they can dictate what their
husbands drive to work every day. "You can't have a sports car, you
need a family car." Why? He's in it all by himself day in and day out.
If he's dropping the kids off every single morning that's different,
but most men drive to work and back alone.

As an example of how my marriage works: I called my wife from work
AFTER I'd wired the $1000 deposit for my DeLorean and said, "Honey, I
bought a DeLorean on eBay. Can you drive me to the airport at 4am
tomorrow morning?" She said, "Cool."

So (1) find the right person, and (2) stand up for yourself when it's
reasonable to do so.

-Ryan

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