RE: [DMCForum] Re: Paying for college

["Jack Stiefel" <jackstiefel@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>]

Yeah that partnership is overrated huh?  I mean why ask and discuss major
purchases with your spouse?  What business is it of theirs?  Oh wait, maybe
because they are your partner.  Would you go into business with someone and
go out and buy all sorts of stuff for the office without talking it over
with them?  If you can afford it, a give spouse won't have issues, but what
if you are the type to get further into debt for your whimsical hobbies
(plus a sewing machine isn't 10K plus purchase)?

Again generalizations don't work, but whatever floats your boat buddy, I for
one respect the sanctity of marriage and its partnership too much.

Jack Stiefel
www.fmtimemachine.com
Direct listen link: www.live365.com/stations/radiocape
 
-----Original Message-----
From: ryanpwright [mailto:yahoo1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx] 
Sent: Thursday, September 30, 2004 4:41 PM
To: DMCForum@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [DMCForum] Re: Paying for college

--- In DMCForum@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx, Farrar Hudkins <fhudkins@xxxx> wrote:
> Flavia,
> 
> Good to hear from you again. Welcome back to the list. :)
> 
> While you're young and on your own is the time to spend money on 
> yourself (as well at put some away for the future if you can). I fully 
> intend on acquiring all of the stuff which would otherwise require 
> spousal approval before I have a spouse.
> 

See, I don't get this. Why would you marry someone if you have to get
their approval for everything you do? I see a lot of men go through
this and I can't for the life of me understand why they put themselves
through the pain. Is the sex really that good? Good enough to abandon
your hobbies and dreams to please the whims of your wife?

Let me share with you a little secret: I don't ask my wife for
permission to acquire anything. When I bought my DeLorean, I just did
it. I'd been casually looking for awhile and came across a deal I
couldn't pass up. Did I call my wife? Yeah, after I'd wired the $1000
deposit. And what did my wife say? Certainly not, "You can't have a
DeLorean, forget it. No way. Get that $1000 back, and you're sleeping
on the couch for a week." Nope, not my wife. She said, "Way cool. When
do I get a ride?"

When I bought our big screen TV, I just did it. Same with the parts to
begin building my hovercraft. Same with everything else I've ever
bought. And every time, she said, "Cool!" 

I know what you're thinking: "What an ass. An overbearing husband. He
must really 'keep his wife down'". In response to which I'd let you
talk to my wife, who would tell you exactly how wrong you are in
precise detail.

Oh, by the way, this goes both ways. When my wife wanted a new sewing
machine a couple of months back, she didn't ask my permission, either.
Why should she? I don't care if she wants to sew. It's her hobby, she
should persue it and enjoy herself. So long as we aren't spending
money we don't have, it's simply not an issue. No matter what it is,
if I want to do it my wife supports me every time, and vice versa. I
wouldn't have it any other way.

So I say to you: Don't marry ANYONE who ever questions your dreams. If
your potential wife would give you shit because you randomly decided
you'd like to buy an ultralight, or go skydiving, or climb Mount
Everest, don't marry her. She's not worth your time.

Sorry for the rant. Too many men put up with too much shit,
sacrificing all of their dreams for a controlling wife that, a few
years down the road, they don't even like anymore. And honestly, who
can blame them? A man should be able to go out and slay a dragon any
damn time he pleases, and his wife, if she doesn't come along for the
adventure, should at least have the decency to say, "Have fun, I'll
see you when you return!"

-Ryan




 
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